Many of us have struggled with anxiety during a rough patch in my life. People very important to us can cause us to lose trust in them, and in turn, I lost trust in ourselves.
Anxiety can lead to dreading social situations. To being short fused and unfair to my closest people in our lives. We might not feel like we cam manage our moods. We might feel like a ships drifting about with no control of whether the next wave would knock us over. The world was doing things TO us. Wehad no control over it.
Forgiveness is the gateway to get my health back.
Holding on to the pain and hurt is the greatest struggle–far after the cause of the pain left the scene. Anxiety comes from trying to control things we cannot control. We beat ourselve up by replaying the wrongs and squeezing on to them rather than setting them free.
Sometimes we aren’t ready to forgive because we believe other people were wrong. It wasn’t okay that they said what they said. Did what they did. They should have huge regrets for how they acted. There should be consequences. Because otherwise, where was the justice in this world?
The shift can come through sitting in stillness and silence.
Forgivieess is never about other person. About holding that person in a kinder light.
It can be about that. But whether wewish the other person goodness or karma, we don’t ever get to determine how they experience what they did and said. We can’t control how they feel about anything. Wishing and hoping they feel anything at all is futile.
What we can control is ourselves. Physical discomfort and pain is made by ourselves. Own the resentment. The anger. The anxiety. The choice.
All of that energy may never land for “them”, but it grows in us when I don’t let it go. It sucks the life out and prevents us from showing up.
To be well and happy,we forgive.
So that we can be free and strong and dream of brighter futures and bigger and better ways of being. So that we can invest all the people who lift me up and value my energy and love.
We can fully decide that we will consciously turn from fear to light. We will seek peace and serenity for ourselves That choice can set usfree.
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