Panic in the Pandemic. Dana Mitra is a faculty coach, career, coach, and leadership coach. She specializes in coaching academics, women leaders, and professionals making career changes. She coaches on purpose, balance and productivity. She is an experienced researcher and professor, with 20 years in the industry.

The ‘And Then What?’: Moving Beyond Your Fear of Failure

We all know the feeling. That knot of anxiety that tightens when you consider launching the new project, starting a difficult conversation, or putting yourself out there in a new career direction. It’s the fear of failure, and it stops more dreams than any actual setback ever could.

As the incredible Brené Brown has taught us through her research, any conversation about courage is inseparable from vulnerability, which naturally includes the possibility of failure. Most of us have built entire lives around avoiding that feeling. We think: What if this thing I’ve been building falls apart? My career? My relationship? This paralyzing fear makes us afraid to take the necessary risks for growth.

The Power of the Simple Question

I remember a conversation with my own coach that completely shifted my perspective:

My coach asked me once: “What would happen if this fell apart?”

“I would fall apart. It would be awful,” I responded.

“And then what?” she said.

That was the turning point. The fall is hard, yes, but we are designed to rise. We can move forward from almost any disaster. A conscious focus on the “and then what?” moment—rather than fixating on the fall itself—is the courage injection we all need to be brave.


 

Your 4-Step Action Plan to Map Out Fear

To truly conquer this fear, we have to pull it out of the shadows and look at it under a bright light. Combining the strategic thinking of Tim Ferriss (Fear Setting) with the resilience focus of Angela Duckworth (Grit), here are four steps to help you map out and neutralize your fear of failure:

  1. Define the Fear as Precisely as Possible: Don’t just say, “I’m afraid of failing.” Get specific. What is the worst possible outcome? (e.g., “I will lose $X and have to take a less-desirable job.”)
  2. What Steps Could Prevent the Failure? Now, be practical. List 2-3 specific, protective actions you can take right now to minimize the chances of that specific disaster. (e.g., “Set a hard budget limit of $X,” or “Get a second opinion from a mentor.”)
  3. What Might the Fall Feel Like? Acknowledge the emotional impact. It’s okay to admit it will be painful, embarrassing, or frustrating. Name the feelings so they don’t ambush you later.
  4. What Would the Moment After the Fall Look Like—The “And Then What?” Moment? This is the most crucial step. How would you pick yourself up? List the recovery steps. Are there potential advantages or upsides to this failure? (e.g., “I would learn a powerful lesson about budgeting,” or “I would finally realize this path wasn’t for me and have clarity to pursue something new.”)

What you will likely discover is this: What you fear is rarely as catastrophic as your mind expects. Your resilience is your superpower. Your ability to move on is far greater than your anxiety gives you credit for.

Don’t let the fear of a hypothetical ‘fall’ keep you grounded. Set your intention on the powerful ‘and then what’ and take the leap.


 Ready to Take the Next Step?

Would you like to brainstorm specific “and then what?” recovery plans for a project or risk you’re currently facing? I’d be happy to help you map it out.

Alignment, Synergy and Flow

arrows coming together to sumbolize synergy, alignment, flowThe concepts of Alignment, Synergy, and Flow have been a big theme for me and my clients recently.
At its core, this is about balancing discipline with a willingness to align with the world around us. It’s the difference between forcing things and finding your rhythm.
Forcing comes from a place of desperation and frustration. Flow comes from purpose and intention.
It’s a daily practice of reducing the noise and building the capacity to see the longer view. This allows us to make discerning choices rather than just push forward.

Here is a breakdown of each concept and how they work in concert:

1. Alignment

Definition: Alignment is the state where all components of a system—goals, values, actions, and resources—are organized and directed toward a single, common purpose or vision.

  • In Business: This means aligning departmental goals, projects, and employee efforts with the overarching strategic vision. For a leader, it means aligning their daily actions with the company’s core mission.
  • In Personal Life: This is often referred to as “Flow Alignment” or “Energetic Alignment.” It is the congruence between your authentic self, your core values, your beliefs, and your actions. When you are personally aligned, you are living a life true to your purpose.
  • The Role of Alignment: Alignment is the foundation or the “right direction.” It ensures that energy is not wasted on conflicting or irrelevant activities. It makes sure that all the “oars are pulling in the same direction.”

2. Synergy

Definition: Synergy is the concept that the combined effect of two or more agents, forces, or elements is greater than the sum of their individual effects. Mathematically, it’s often expressed as .

  • In Business: This is the collaboration among individuals or departments that produces a result significantly better than if they had worked in isolation. It often involves combining complementary strengths to cover weaknesses.
  • In Personal Life: This can refer to the positive, amplifying effect when different parts of your life (e.g., your passion, your career, your relationships) reinforce and energize one another. For example, a hobby that improves a skill you use at work.
  • The Role of Synergy: Synergy is the multiplier or the “extra power.” It is the powerful outcome that results fromthings being correctly aligned.

3. Flow

Definition: Flow, in this context, refers to a state of smooth, continuous, and effortless motion or operation. It often relates to the psychological “Flow State” (coined by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi), which is a state of deep immersion and enjoyment in an activity.

  • In Business: It’s a frictionless operation where processes, information, and communication move smoothly without bottlenecks, confusion, or conflict. Decision-making is rapid and effective.
  • In Personal Life: It is the feeling of being “in the zone,” where you are fully present, actions feel effortless, and you experience deep satisfaction and productivity. Time seems to disappear.
  • The Role of Flow: Flow is the experience or the “effortless momentum.” It is the result of both alignment and synergy being successfully achieved.

The Complete Connection

When these three concepts are present, a powerful cycle is created:

  1. Alignment Synergy: When all parts of a system (people, goals, resources) are aligned toward the same clear objective, their combined efforts naturally create synergy—their strengths complement one another, and their output exceeds expectations.
  2. Synergy Flow: This highly efficient, reinforcing interaction (synergy) reduces friction and resistance, leading to a state of flow where work or life feels effortless, engaging, and highly productive.
  3. Flow Alignment: The positive feedback and success experienced in the state of flow further reinforce the shared vision and correct course, strengthening the initial alignment and ensuring the cycle continues.

In essence, Alignment sets the course, Synergy provides the power, and Flow is the optimal experience and speed of the journey.

Dana is a faculty coach, career, coach, and leadership coach. She specializes in coaching academics, women leaders, and professionals making career changes.professionals making career changes.

Join me on the Higher Ed Geek

Faculty success and wellbeing are key themes for higher education. I speak with Dustin Ramsdell on succeeding in academia, including a discussion of successful academic publishing, work/life balance, and finding ones purpose. I also discuss ways for a university to create a supportive work culture . We focus on highlights my recent book, The Empowered Professor. Listen on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, and elsewhere.

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